The Tender Bar

The Tender Bar

A Memoir

eBook - 2005
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J.R. Moehringer grew up listening for a voice: the sound of his missing father, a disc jockey who disappeared before J.R. spoke his first words. As a boy, he would press his ear to a radio, straining to hear the keys to his own identity. His mother was his world, his anchor, but he needed something else, something he couldn't name. So he turned to the bar on the corner, a grand old New York saloon that was a sanctuary for all types of men--cops and poets, actors and lawyers, gamblers and stumblebums. The flamboyant characters taught J.R., tended him, and provided a kind of fatherhood by committee. When the time came for him to leave home, the bar became a way station, offering shelter from failure, from rejection, and eventually from reality--until at last the bar turned J.R. away. A portrait of one boy's struggle to become a man, and a touching depiction of how some men remain lost boys.--From publisher description.
Publisher: New York : Hyperion, 2005.
ISBN: 9781401383428


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ChristchurchLib Apr 14, 2014

"A vivid memoir of growing up and coming of age with a single mother describes how the author received valuable life lessons and friendship at the neighbourhood bar, an old-time New York saloon populated by a colourful assortment of characters who provided him with a kind of fatherhood by committee." Biography and Memoir April 2014 newsletter

Apr 29, 2013

Could not get into it. I don't smoke, drink or gamble so it is hard for me to understand the boy's admiration for the people in this pub, even if he was looking for a father figure. Don't understand his fascination with his name either. At some point he should have realized that the dad is a write-off and just moved on.

Feb 23, 2013

I loved this book and it's still one of my favourite memoirs. Thoroughly recommend it. Engaging, funny and well written. It stays with you.

Dec 11, 2012

This may be the best Memoir I have ever read. It takes more than an interesting life, a cast of characters and some good stories to write a good memoir. You have to be able to write too. JR Moehringer can write. One third of the way through the book, I forgot it was a memoir and was certain it was a novel. Then at the three quarter point I realized (again) that the narrator and the writer had the same name and I was indeed reading a memoir.

So good, so beautifully written, I did not want it to end.

I'd recommend to any adult or older teen.

Dec 16, 2010

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